SECONDARY CONDITIONS OF ANXIETY DISORDERS: THE NEED TO BE IN CONTROL
There is another control, which actually forms the basis of all the other controls we use. It can be so subtle that many of us may not be aware of it. It is the need to be in control, not only of ourselves but of our whole environment.
The need to be in control permeates every aspect of our life. We feel we need to be in control as we have already lost so much to the disorder. We are afraid of what might happen if we lose control.
The need to be in control is the main obstacle towards recovery. Recovery means the opposite. Recovery means we need to let go of the need to be in control. We don’t realise our overwhelming need to be in control perpetuates our disorder.
There are many various aspects to this particular control, which are discussed in detail later. To let go of this control is unimaginable, but letting go means recovery, and with recovery comes freedom.